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The Parent Pledge

Here’s the “Parent Pledge” by Positive Coaching Alliance.

This is so important for parents to understand, I wanted to make sure it was easy to find for everyone.

The “official” guidance is below, but at a minimum – read it and strive to act in accordance with the simple principles.

Read, consider, implement.

Enjoy.


PRINCIPLE #1 – LIFE LESSONS

As a “Second-Goal” Parent, I will let players and coaches take responsibility for the first goal of winning.

I will relentlessly focus on the second, more important, goal of using sports to teach life lessons to my child and other youth.

PRINCIPLE #2 – POSITIVITY

I will use positive encouragement to fill the Emotional Tanks of my children, their teammates, and coaches.

I understand that people do their best with full Emotional Tanks.

PPRINCIPLE #3 – MASTERY

I will reinforce the E.L.M. Tree of Mastery with my child (E for Effort, L for Learning, M for bouncing back from Mistakes).

Because I understand a mastery approach will help my child be successful in sports and in life, I will encourage my child to:

  • put in a high level of effort to get better
  • cultivate a Teachable Spirit to continue to learn and improve
  • use a Mistake Ritual (e.g., “flushing mistakes”) to quickly rebound from mistakes

PRINCIPLE #4 – HONOR THE GAME

I will set an example for my child by Honoring the Game and will encourage him/her to remember R.O.O.T.S. —respect for the Rules, Opponents, Officials, Teammates, and Self.

If the official makes a “bad” call against my team, I will Honor the Game and be silent!

PRINCIPLE #5 – SELF CONTROL

I will use a self-control routine to avoid losing my composure when things go wrong.

I will take a deep breath, turn away from the game to refocus, count backwards from 100 or use self-talk (“I need to be a role model. I can rise above this.”).

PRINCIPLE #6 – LET ‘EM PLAY

I will engage in No-Directions Cheering.

I will limit my comments during the game to encouraging my child and other players (from both teams).

PRINCIPLE #7 – BE ON TIME

I will get my child to practice and games on time and will be on time picking my child up after games and practices.

PRINCIPLE #8 – NEGATIVITY

I will refrain from making negative comments about my child’s coach in my child’s presence.

I understand that this will help to avoid planting negative seeds in my child’s head that can negatively influence my child’s motivation and overall experience.


8 simple principles.

Can you imagine how much better the game could be if everyone followed these guidelines?

Food for thought.

Coach Scott

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